Leaving Drama Behind

Contributor: Lauren Gaines

 

Drama. We LOVE it on TV but in real life, it’s not so pretty. Here are some steps on how to avoid unnecessary drama.

1. If it’s something private, keep it private unless you are talking with someone you really trust.
   
   
2. Do not let “venting” be an excuse for gossip! Watch out- this can be a fine line.
   
   
3. If you heard something from someone that so and so said such and such, STOP right there. Remember learning about primary sources and their proximity to the truth?  That applies here. Go to the source and talk with your brother or sister. And when there is discussion or confrontation do it in love. Remember who you belong to.
   
   
4. Look at yourself and others. Learn to recognize manipulation for what it is. It’s a slippery slope and will never end well. This is treating people as a means to an end and that is not okay.
   
   
5. Unless it is a danger or potential danger, if your friend tells you something in confidence, keep it to yourself. Discretion is a viable skill. If you don’t think you can keep it to yourself, tell them. They will appreciate your honesty now rather than a fight and loss of trust later.
   
   
6. Seriously, think before you speak. This is something that everyone has struggled with, even hundreds of years ago so do not feel ashamed to remind yourself of this it is wisdom. “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” James 1:19
   
   
7. Think about the things that push buttons with people. Don’t push those buttons to make a point or get the upper hand. Be fair.
   
   
8. Are those dirty dishes really going to cause you to lose a friendship? Don’t hate over the little things!
   
   
9. Learn to forgive when your roommate makes you irritated, your friend doesn’t contribute on that project, someone said something that they didn’t mean (in this case you already know it was a mistake). Bitterness and grudges will hinder you in the long run.

Get some rest and pray through whatever situation is causing drama or potential drama. Do not give the enemy a foot in the door. Instead, seek truth and love.

After all, no one likes a drama llama.

Photo Credit